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Betty Jean (BJ) Howlett Cox, age 84, of Hayes, died at the home of her daughter, Micky Nieman in New Milford, Connecticut, on Tuesday, Sept. 15, 2020, surrounded by her family. She was born in Gloucester, Virginia, on Jan. 14, 1936, and was predeceased in death by her mother, Virginia Williams; husband and father of her children, Raymond E. Howlett; son, Michael Howlett; a brother, Charles Jenkins, and husband, Roger Cox Sr. She is survived by her daughter, Micky Nieman (Jerry); four grandchildren, Amy Rodriguez (Zachary), Virginia DiGiacomo, Valerie Allison (Phillip), Raymond Bondranko; six great-grandchildren, Alexandra Rodriguez, Gabriel Rodriguez, Raiden DiGiacomo, Brianna Allison, Sonya Allison, Josephine Allison; one great-great-granddaughter, Amara Rose, as well as numerous cousins, nieces and nephews. She is also survived by two special cousins, Eva Tillage and Audrey Parker and special friends, Michael and Earline Nicely.

Betty Jean retired from the Gloucester County Sheriff’s Department following more than 30 years of dedicated service as secretary. She was a proud Den mother to a Cub Scout Pack, a Girl Scout Troop Leader and a Pee Wee football Mom who started the first cheer squad for Pee Wee football in Gloucester. Her hobbies included motorcycle riding, listening to Conway Twitty and camping. She was a country music and bluegrass enthusiast who was especially fond of Rappahannock Crossing Bluegrass Band. She loved to spend time with her family, especially going roller skating at the Old Mill together every weekend. A graveside service, conducted by the Rev. Dave Bergeron, was held at 11 a.m. on Tuesday, Sept. 22, 2020, in Rosewell Memorial Garden Cemetery. In memory of our loved one, contributions may be made to the Susan G. Komen Foundation, or the Abingdon Volunteer Fire & Rescue Squad, P.O. Box 9, Bena, Va. 23018.

Services under the direction of Hogg Funeral Home.