Letter: Offering hope to victims of ‘survival sex’
My dear friend Starr (Nicholas) was featured in an article on human trafficking (“Mathews resident working to combat human trafficking,” July 10 Gazette-Journal) and mentioned “survival sex.” I am not writing this to put my business out there; instead, it is the only way I can reach some people who are suffering in silence or out loud and desperately need some relief.
If you ever sold your body because you or your child was hungry, cold or needed to get somewhere, or you just had no one to love you, then you are a survivor of human trafficking. Regardless of how or why you got to that place of utter devastation, you are not a “whore,” “slut” or even a prostitute, you were or are a victim. Unfortunately, we live in a world where too many men serve their sexual desire like a god and they see your misfortune as an opportunity to conquer easy prey.
I know that once you have been victimized, in any way, it seems as though we have a stamp on our heads that says “unprotected.” If there is someone who is subject to being unethical or sees an opportunity to beat us up with the Word of God, or is simply an egotistical jerk, they find us. It’s what I call “emotional harmonics.” We certainly don’t want it, but they force it upon us.
The good news is there is a way out! First, do whatever you need to do to stop using substances or whatever to kill that pain, if you are. Second, stop beating yourself up, calling yourself trash and all the things society has penned us with! You are a child of God and He don’t make junk! I’m not going to lie; it’s not easy. To this day, people resent me because of the very strengths and characteristics that allowed me not only to survive, but thrive.
Once you make it out, you will see no “class” of people. Most don’t have a clue of what this or that class of people is truly capable of. We need to hold our heads high, because Jesus Christ sees us as beautiful, classy women, children and, yes, men. Honestly, I believe He loves us extra. Stop hating also; let God deal with them. I promise you He will do a better job. Set yourself free!
Debra Jo Jenkins